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making powerful, positive changes in your life, the changes you have always wanted to make, the changes that make a real difference.

increasing your self confidence as you Grow your personal power

discovering the person you really are - becoming the true you and realising your potential for living

overcoming blockages that limit your personal growth and success

finding more love, freedom, success and real joy in your life

growing and enriching your relationships - creating new intimacy, new and deeper bonding with a partner, friends, family


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Keys to

Power and control are forces which create positive or negative outcomes in our lives.

Elements of power and control include:

* control and power (different, but they work  together)

* impersonal power and control

* personal power and control

* real authentic power

* pretend power (not real)

* conditional power

* unconditional power

* exchanged power is fair or honest, legitimate

* pinched power is unfair, dishonest, manipulated


The more you become familiar with these  elements and understand them ... the stronger your power and control whether you are working with one element, or combinations of two or three of them, as is usually the case.

When looking at personal power there is no need to separate power and control, they work together. So let’s just talk about power (even if technically we might be talking about being in control). To explain the difference:

* Control is something you “do”: the way you ‘make things happen’; ‘get the job done’. or make changes. It can be switched on and off. If nothing is happening that requires you to ‘drive’ anything, then at that time, you’re not using control and nobody will feel controlled by you.

* Power is  is something you “have”, like having a car, control is using your car  to move from where you are now to somewhere you want to be. You can ‘be empowered’ without needing to use it all the time. It’s stored inside you like power in a battery. People may or may not be aware of your power, especially at times when you’re not using it.

Personal power is Inside you

* Personal power is a very important part of being who you are. When you have it you are empowered. Your personal power includes your ability to exercise control and make changes when and if you want to.

Personal power can be grown, shared, earned or learned. Once you have it, it is hard for anyone to take it from you. It is based more on your skills, energy and ability than your words.  

You can certainly trade or exchange personal power but it is a mistake to give your personal power away without a struggle, without conditions or without some benefit in return. The exception is when you give personal power away consciously and unconditionally as a gift.

With personal power there are no external conditions, contracts, no laws controlling your power.

Impersonal Power is largely Outside you

It can be exchanged, traded, shared, lent and taken away.

It is conditional for example, it can be based on rewards for obeying and penalties for not complying.

Because its existence depends mainly on external or “outside of you” factors it helps to see it more as on loan to you, but if you have it, understandably you should not let go of it without a struggle.

Impersonal power can be authentic and real but just as often it is faked using Pretend Power or Pretend Parent styles.

Old rules and beliefs can block your power

Some of those old rules are based on beliefs about your not having any power that today are totally untrue, yet they can still undermine  your personal power!

Real Power will stand up to testing or measuring. If you question someone’s real power their answer will make it clear how real it is, often to the point where you can measure it or put a number to it.

Pretend Power is not real though often it will be presented to you as if it is. It may seem real but it will not stand up well to questioning, or testing. It will not be clearly defined or  measured. There is usually some element of dishonest power pinching or manipulation involved.


Communicating about Power

Communicating with others with a focus on personal power is “more connected, but less protected.”

On the other hand:

Communicating with others with a focus on impersonal power is “more protected but less connected.”


Real, authentic power versus faked or pretend power

Impersonal power can be authentic and real, but often it’s faked using Pretend Power or Pretend Parent ways of acting and communicating.

Real or Authentic Power will stand up to testing or measuring. If you question someone’s real power their answer will make it clear how real it is, often to the point where you can measure it or put a number to it.

Real power may be conditional. Pretend power is always conditional.

Pretend Power is not real, though often it will be presented to you as if it is. Once you break through the outward appearance, though, it will not stand up well to questioning or testing. It will not be clearly defined or able to be measured. There is usually some element of dishonest power pinching or manipulation involved.

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You might like to read some of  my other FREE books.

* Loving Your Inner Child

* Introduction to Emotional Age Awareness

* Core Belief Balancing

* Introduction to Voice Dialogue


All books are in standard PDF format.

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The Emotional Age Awareness wheel  and Personal Power

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More about power Your personal power

Links  to pages on this website


Different skills and abilities that create personal power (You choose the ones that work best for you)

Don’t Give Your Power away

Dealing with Manipulation

Questioning Old Rules

Naming the Elephant in the room

Narcissistic type Behaviour patterns NBP


Making Powerful Changes
The Main Elements

Websites in our Growing Awareness  and Flying Awareness Series  -  


www.core-beliefs-balance.com

narcissistic-behaviour-patterns-nbp.com

www.love-your-inner-child.com

www.keys-to-personal-power.com

www.emotional-age-power.com

www.disowned-inner-selves.com

www.flyingawareness.com

www.healing-a-relationship.com

www.growingaware.com

www.growingaware.net

www.growing-aware.com.au

www.love-your-innerchild.com


Recommended sites

www.stepbystepsupport.com.au





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